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How to Deal with Obsessive Thoughts

Brad Brenner, Ph.D.

Everyone experiences distressing or unwanted thoughts from time to time. However, obsessive thoughts are far more persistent than day-to-day mental clutter. The Anxiety and Depression Association of America reports that a significant percentage of Americans experience intrusive thoughts, highlighting the prevalence and impact of these mental health issues.

Obsessive thoughts can have a significant and highly negative impact on your overall mood and day-to-day functioning. When intrusive thoughts enter your mind, you’ll likely experience some level of discomfort, followed by attempts to avoid unwanted thoughts. Obsessions are also typically accompanied by high stress and intense anxiety.

Many people engage in unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with obsessive thoughts, such as withdrawing from friends and family members, compulsive behaviors, and aggression. Fortunately, learning how to recognize and cope with obsessive thoughts can help individuals improve their quality of life and take control of their mental health.

Understanding Obsessive Thinking

Obsessive thinking is a hallmark of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), a mental health condition that involves recurring, intrusive thoughts and compulsions to perform specific rituals or behaviors. These obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors can significantly disrupt an individual’s daily life, leading to distress, anxiety, and impairment in various areas such as social interactions, work, and other daily activities. Understanding the nature of obsessive thinking is the first step toward managing it effectively and improving your overall mental health.

What is obsessive thinking?

Obsessive thinking is characterized by recurring thoughts that are often paired with negative judgments. In many cases, individuals experience an inability to control these distressing, intrusive thoughts, and their severity can range from mild and annoying to all-encompassing and debilitating.

Generalized anxiety disorder can also involve obsessive thinking, similar to OCD, where individuals may experience persistent and excessive worry about various aspects of life.

According to the American Psychiatric Association, obsessive thoughts might take the form of negative self-talk (e.g., ”I’m not good enough”) to worry over small details (e.g., ”I forgot to lock the door”) to scarier thoughts, such as falling fatally ill (e.g., ”What if I have cancer?”) or hurting loved ones.

Examples of Obsessive Thoughts

Obsessive thoughts can manifest in various forms, often causing significant distress. Some common examples include:

  • Recurring, intrusive thoughts about harm or danger to oneself or others

  • Intense fear of contamination or germs

  • Persistent worries about losing control or making mistakes

  • Unwanted, distressing thoughts or images

  • Overwhelming fear of being contaminated or dirty

  • Constantly doubting one’s abilities or judgment

These intrusive thoughts can be highly distressing and often lead to compulsive behaviors, such as excessive cleaning, checking, or repeating certain actions to alleviate the anxiety they cause.

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Coping with Obsessive Thoughts

Unwanted, distressing thoughts are a normal part of human nature. But when we begin to take obsessions literally or treat them as harmful, obsessive thoughts can lead to stress and anxiety. Often, people resort to compulsive behavior as an unhealthy coping mechanism to manage these obsessive thoughts. To stop obsessive thinking, with or without its associated compulsions, here’s what you can do.

Recognize negative and intrusive thought patterns.

The first step to stopping obsessive thoughts from disrupting your daily life is to identify the thoughts. Often, when you’re stuck in a cognitive loop, you’re engaging in a well-established habit. Like biting your nails or checking your phone every few minutes, obsessions and compulsive behaviors often happen unconsciously. The next time you notice rumination, tell yourself to stop.

After recognizing your negative thoughts, try writing them down. Jotting your thoughts down on paper can help you examine them, understand how they’re triggered, and identify the real problems contributing to your obsessions.

Identify Your Triggers

Identifying triggers is a crucial step in managing obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors. Triggers can be specific thoughts, situations, or emotions that provoke obsessions and compulsions. Keeping a record of these triggers can help you anticipate and prepare for OCD symptoms. Common triggers include:

  • Stressful situations

  • Lack of sleep

  • Hormonal changes

  • Certain environments or situations

  • Specific thoughts or emotional states

By recognizing these triggers, you can develop strategies to manage your responses and reduce the impact of obsessive thoughts on your daily life.

Accept that your thoughts are mostly out of your control.

The only way to cope with OCD thoughts is to practice acceptance. Attempting to avoid, escape, or suppress distressing thoughts ultimately strengthens them, making them worse and worse. Rather than avoiding your thoughts, remind yourself that thoughts are just thoughts and nothing more. As you learn to accept your intrusive thoughts, you’ll have a much better chance of stopping them in their tracks.

To practice accepting obsessive thoughts, plant yourself in the present and be realistic about what you do and don’t have control over. For instance, if you find yourself worrying about the future, ask yourself, ”Can I do anything to fix this right now?” If the answer is yes, identify what you can do and take action. If the answer is no, try your best to accept the situation.

Practice meditation and mindfulness techniques.

Obsessive thinking often feels uncomfortable and distressing due to the negative emotions that accompany intrusive thoughts. While you work on challenging rumination by recognizing and accepting them, using meditation and mindfulness techniques can help you combat negative emotional responses and practice positive self-talk.

According to Psychology Today, mindfulness involves “clearing your head and focusing on how your mind and body feel in the moment.” Practicing mindfulness and meditation can help prevent obsessive thinking and relieve anxiety by reorienting you to the present moment. These techniques can be particularly effective in managing intrusive thoughts in daily lives.

When you recognize obsessive thoughts, try deep breathing by breathing in for a count of four, holding the breath for a count of four, and exhaling for another count of four. Alternatively, grounding exercises can help you anchor yourself and break the rumination cycle.

Challenge Your Thinking

Challenging negative thoughts and assumptions is vital for managing obsessive thinking. This involves identifying and reframing unhelpful thought patterns, such as:

  • All-or-nothing thinking

  • Overgeneralization

  • Catastrophizing

  • Mind reading

  • Fortune telling

By actively challenging these negative thought patterns, you can develop a more balanced and realistic perspective, which can help reduce the distress associated with obsessive thoughts.

Find Ways to Distract Yourself

Distracting yourself from obsessive thoughts can be an effective way to manage symptoms. Engaging in activities that require your full attention can help break the cycle of rumination. Consider activities such as:

  • Exercise

  • Mindfulness meditation

  • Creative pursuits like painting or writing

  • Socializing with friends and family

  • Engaging in a hobby you enjoy

By focusing on these activities, you can divert your attention from obsessive thoughts and reduce the distress they cause. However, it’s important to remember that while these strategies can be helpful, they should not replace professional treatment. If you are struggling with obsessive thoughts or compulsive behaviors, seeking help from a mental health professional is crucial for effective management and support.

Don’t be afraid to seek help from a mental health professional.

While obsessive thinking is a normal part of human nature, it can also be a symptom of various mental illnesses, including obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and other anxiety disorders, according to the Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. If you find yourself struggling with intrusive thoughts, repetitive behaviors, or compulsive rituals, or if you need extra help managing your obsessive thoughts, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional mental health support. Mental health professionals are equipped to address various mental health issues, such as anxiety disorders and mood disorders, and can offer supportive techniques to manage these intrusive thoughts.

Together with your mental health professional, you’ll be able to establish the most effective plan to treat your symptoms. Many comprehensive OCD treatment plans include:

  • Psychotherapy: Common types of psychotherapy, including psychodynamic therapy, exposure and response prevention therapy (ERP), and cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), can help individuals understand their obsessive thoughts and recognize unhelpful thought patterns. Research has shown that cognitive-behavior therapy effectively treats the symptoms of a wide range of mental health issues, including OCD, depression, and anxiety disorders such as trichotillomania.

  • Medication: If you’re experiencing persistent, intrusive thoughts combined with compulsions, impulses, or ritualistic behaviors, your mental health professional may recommend treatment with prescription medications. Some medications that have been FDA-approved to treat OCD symptoms include antidepressants, like selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), such as Fluvoxamine (Luvox), Fluoxetine (Prozac), Sertraline (Zoloft), Paroxetine (Paxil), and Citalopram (Celexa).

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